By Samantha Giermek,
We all know being a mom is a tough, thankless job. Constantly cleaning, child-rearing, caring for, babying children as well as the husband can be stressful and even depressing. It’s not that we don’t enjoy being mothers, in fact, we think it’s the greatest gift a human being can offer another. But what do we do when all of the work of being a mom just simply isn’t enough? When it seems like we need a little more purpose- a little more challenge?
Of course, motherhood is challenging in and of itself. Recently my 4-year-old has been sick every 2 weeks- for a week at a time. We thought this trend might stop after practically the entire half of the year went by (the first time this started) at age 3. Well, it’s back again. Time to go to the store, pick the right vitamins, pick up all of your usual cough or flu medicine, along with all of the other essentials for a good night’s sleep, such as a humidifier…you hope stemming the tide of the monsoon of sickness. When it passes, we all rejoice! Only to find the nagging cough coming on again in another 2 weeks. This has been going on for over 4 months.
It’s challenges like these that made me question a few years ago if I was doing enough in the world. Am I doing enough just taking care of my kids, raising them to be decent human beings and fussing about the house? I thought I was missing something.
I decided I would look inward at myself, examine my strengths and see if there was an opportunity that would allow me to give as much as I was giving at home but to the outer world. I thought about doing some crafts at home and selling them at the local farmers market. But I’m not much of a craft person. I watch a lot of home renovation shows on HGTV- but I wasn’t able to afford to buy rentals and fix them up. And that’s when I stumbled on the opportunity to become a surrogate.
There was one thing I knew about myself, and it was that I had good pregnancies. All of my pregnancies with my children were “easy” and my children were born with no C-sections. I didn’t even have an epidural for my second child he came so easy! To become a surrogate, I needed to have healthy pregnancies already, be a US citizen, and also live in a surrogate friendly state. There are other qualifications to becoming a surrogate, but these are some of the main ones.
And the more I looked for opportunities to challenge myself, the more I found that infertility is a real thing for a lot of people- according to RESOLVE (the national infertility association) 1 out of 8 couples struggle with infertility of some form or another.
Becoming a surrogate that year led me to a journey I never thought possible. I love being a Mom, and it is deeply satisfying. However, when you become a surrogate for another family in need- your life changes as a result. It is challenging becoming a surrogate, and there can be many steps to the process, but it is so worth it!
Knowing you don’t take this child home with you, but you provided the chance for this child to go home with his/her parents when they otherwise would not have existed- it’s the most unique opportunity for a mother that I hope many others have the ability to experience. It was this cause that ultimately led me to not only have a surrogate child, but to help others have children through surrogates as well.
Written by: Samantha Giermek, business owner and surrogate coordinator for www.madeintheusasurrogacy.com.