If you don’t have a baby for few years the way people treat you is very different.
We attend so many functions, and every time someone will come up to you and say I hope you have a baby soon. In naming ceremonies and birthdays you will hear next is your turn. New years and birthdays you will hear, I hope this year you will have a baby. It’s worse if someone married after you already got a baby comparison starts off right away.
At times you just feel, why can’t these people leave us alone. And why should our life be perfect, bug us if we got good marks, if we got a job, if that was campus placed, when we are getting married, now baby. The list is never ending.
I attended an etiquette class and the first thing we learnt was not to ask someone if they are married or if they have kids. Why people don’t have kids is their choice or something they are going through and its personal. I know we cant shut the mouth of everyone but it’s very tough to deal with it.
In other countries even young people back answer older people if they don’t like what they say. But in India it’s the biggest offence. The problem is not everyone cares for you. Some people genuinely care that we should have a baby soon, others are quite happy that nothing is happening. Those are the ones I hate.
Watch out even before you advice people without kids or give doctor recommendations, there is a way t do it without hurting.
Not having a baby is not a crime there can be many reasons. Some people are waiting for it to happen, some do not want kids, some like to adopt, whatever it is, it’s their problem.
I know my dance instructor who does not want to have kids as she has dedicated her life to dance, and then people treat their pets as babies. I know being a momma is a special thing but as a mother its better to understand a girls feeling of what she is going through without a baby.
In todays world there are so many treatments and so many options to have a baby, so people dont worry. Over everything God is there.
So my only request is if you come across childless couples, there is so much more to talk. If there is some good news they will inform you.
Love all you mommas here, I too will be momma soon but after many many years of trying. Do pray for me.
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